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Deep Roots at Home Article

I highly recommend this article for all parents, grandparents and caretakers.  Take a look!

http://deeprootsathome.com/kids-friendless-bored-impatient/

Tame that Gremlin

80% of what ADHD children hear at school can be negative, so the 80% they hear at home should be positive. Look for their strengths, beauties, and competencies, and talk about them often. Appreciate the little things they do and tell them. Let them over hear you telling others good things about them. Nothing will make them prouder and instill a higher level of self confidence. ADHD children need more positive feedback than other kids and they need to know that someone believes in them. They tend to hold a negative “gremlin” inside their minds reminding them of all of the things they do wrong, or late, or not at all. Help them to focus on their talents, value, and worth! Catch your child being good and acknowledge them genuinely. Every person longs to feel important, dignified, and valued. What can you do to make your child feel more dignified?

Wish you understood your child better? Ask them to name 2-3 things they like about going to school and 2-3 things they do not like about going to school. Remember, academic intelligence and social intelligence only have 5% overlap so be ready for any answer. I recommend you listen supportively, with no judgment. Refrain from responding for at least 24 hours, if at all. Just listen and learn. Let them know you are their support system and you just might be amazed at how the communication lines open up. By the way, there will be time to work on solving issues later.

The Immeasurable Value of Making Mistakes!

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career.  I’ve lost almost 300 games.  26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.  I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life.  And that is why I succeed.”                   -Michael Jordan

 

Allowing a loved one to make mistakes and experience failure is extremely difficult.  Out of love, our first instinct is to prevent that fall, correct the situation, and solve the unanswered questions.  However, growth, wisdom, and maturity spring from mistakes. Mistakes are human, humbling and essential.  The only way not to fail is to live so guardedly that you barely live at all.  That’s no fun!  Failure can be a type of freedom because the worst has already happened.  Now you can relax and rebuild you life.

 

Parents, avoid expecting perfection.  It often leads to increased anxieties, the inability to make choices, and moving forward in life.  Allow mistakes to happen and watch your child grow.  Do not take the responsibility off of the child and do expect them to own up to their mistakes.  Do not scold or jump in too fast.  Let them feel the natural consequesnces, then offer the positive challenge for them to think and creatively solve their mistakes.  Many of the greatest successes come from the failures.   Admit it, explore it, and improve it !!!